My father worked for New York Telephone for 25 years. As a kid, he would use analogies to the phone company to teach life lessons. I was thinking of one last night. For example, relationships can be difficult, even more so when they are dissolving. When a relationship ends, one party or the other generally “hangs up” on the relationship.
In my divorce practice, it is rare for both spouses to be in agreement when getting divorced. Many times, one spouse seems to be further along on the emotional path of divorce than the other. Long before a divorce begins, one spouse does not receive a “dial tone” from the other. There is a shattered path when attempting to create a “good connection” which makes it next to impossible for parties to have a good conversation. Once divorce negotiations start, the spouse that has been “disconnected” for a long time, has an even harder time communicating with their soon to be former partner.
As an attorney, one of my roles is to help my client bridge this gap and find the “dial tone” to foster better communication within their family and with their spouse. This isn’t easy for a lot of people to do who are burdened with anger, sadness and grief. However, there is a solution.
The Collaborative Divorce Process is particularly geared towards helping a divorcing couple work in a proactive manner when dismantling their marriage in a respectful and mutual process. This is done by incorporating a collaborative team of professionals that offer clients resources to help them move forward including divorce coaches, parenting specialists and therapists.
There are many aspects to getting a divorce that have nothing to do with money. Let the collaborative process be the answer to your “call” for help if you are facing or considering a divorce.
